6 Ways to stop worrying what others think about you
Do you spend too much time stressing and want to stop worrying what others think about you?
It may seem like human nature but should we really care what other people think? I mean, Mrs Doyle over at number 49 may keep peering over her bins at you on a Thursday morning but does it really matter?
If you think about it, honestly and truly, what is the actual impact of her not liking/disapproving of you? How do you stop worrying?
Firstly, as long as you are not bellowing S Club 7 songs out at the top of your lungs and resurrecting dead cats with your voice at 2 am, then it’s all OK. Worrying about other opinions of you seems to be rife nowadays, so what can we do to change this behaviour?
Here’s 6 ways to stop worrying what others think about you
- Don’t try and please everyone, it’s impossible! You could be the greatest, smartest, funniest person ever, and there will still be people that dislike you, for their own reasons. Usually jealousy but it could be that you remind them of someone from their past that did them wrong. It’s not your fault, so let it go.
- Other people’s opinion of you is none of your business, so mind your own – this is one of my favourite quotes as it’s so true. Other people aren’t living in your shoes, they aren’t paying your bills, so why should you care what their opinion of you is? Their negativity is their problem, not yours, so let it go.
- Stop paying attention to other people’s opinion of you – they are probably a whole lot less interested in you than you realise. If you are too busy concentrating on what they are thinking about you, you are missing out on living your life.
It’s also quite satisfying to not care whether they like what you are wearing today, for example. Not caring shows confidence and confidence is empowering. People are generally more drawn to confident people, so hold your head up high!
- Focus on you – if you refocus the energy you’ll stop worrying and concentrate on improving yourself. Imagine how productive and empowered you could become!
So take a deep breath and focus on what you want to achieve, today/week/month, then do it. Satisfying yourself with achievements is beneficial to your own well being and you’ll be far too busy to worry about what others think of you.
- Get some rhino skin/new friends – The more sensitive you are to things, the more upset you’ll be. Start off pretending you are not over sensitive, and practise daily. You’ll become stronger and more able to let go of your sensitivity and keep it for when it’s required.
Remember, when people put you down, it’s often a reflection on their insecurities. “Normal”, nice people don’t go around insulting others. Choose your friends carefully. If they are the type to put you down all the time, are they even worthy of being your friend?
- The Law of Attraction – if you concentrate and focus on bad things, you’ll notice them happening. When you stop worrying and shift your focus onto positivity & thanking the Universe, you are more likely to get positivity back. I’ve tested this on many occasions and it’s definitely worked.
I personally like to thank the Universe for 3 things, first thing in the morning. It sets up my day and allows me to focus on what’s good in my life. The happier I am, the less other people’s negativity will affect me, as I’m happy within myself, it makes me feel stronger.
I hope this helps some of you to stop worrying so much.
Of course not everyone will agree with what I’ve written but that’s okay, I don’t really care!
Good day to you all, and keep on smiling,
Katy x
Katy Stevenson
Clinical Hypnotherapist